Don’t Force Creativity

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I never understood what it meant to experience the world through a child’s eyes until I had a child of my own. Since giving birth three years ago, every day has been like living through a lens through a little person who is constantly experiencing his first. Everything I learn to do as an adult pales in comparison to what he learns, my paltry skill-building has no match for the level on which he grows. It has been amazing watching him learn to walk, learn to call me mom, and now, mom-mom-mom-mom-mom.

drawing outside the lines

drawing outside the lines

One thing I have learned is that I cannot force creativity on him. I cannot give him a palette of finger paints and expect that he will create a rainbow. And really, can I expect an active, independent three-year-old to listen to instruction when it’s hard enough getting him to eat more than a plate of dino-shaped nuggets?

With my son’s creativity, I have to just go with it. He bursts out unexpectedly and sometimes I feel like I’m racing to catch up, to latch onto what he says and explore it. The other day he was shuffling his feet across the kitchen floor, moving from one end to the other. Without looking at his mother and father, he said, “I’m a train! Choo-choo!”

If I see him drawing like mad, I ask him if there’s a story there. Sometimes he doesn’t want to talk and I have to accept it and let him work on his own. Artists. Hmmph. Other times he’ll let me know which scribble is Mommy (usually the round one) and which one is Daddy and which one is his cousin who lives 30 minutes away.

When I see him absorbed with his DUPLO blocks and placing them in a hodgepodge of situations that are not shown on the box, I don’t tell him how it should be. I let hi play on his own terms, creating his own world the way he wants to. Unless he pulls me into his playtime and wants me to be the conductor, I am just an appreciative audience member.

When he dances to music and he practically yells, “DANCE MOM! NOW!” I obey immediately. I get up and move with him, performing sillier and wackier moves that delight this little human. It’s so freeing to be with someone who doesn’t judge me either, and who allows me access into his world to experience it with him.

My son is an exuberant child and his constantly growing brain is a gift. I could never have imagined that I would be so lucky to have a little boy who loves life. As his parent, I remind him, “I am on your schedule. I am speaking your language. You don’t have to prove anything to me.”

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